Many individuals don't adjust unless they have to: they could be compelled by certain conditions to alter, or the pressure of remaining put is intolerable. Any way, huge negative reinforcement sometimes is required to bring about significant change. This is clearly not our first option to make improvements as a consequence of emotional reinforcement, but it definitely works!
We still put up with a huge deal of garbage to maintain stuff the way we're comfortable with. We might also think, "I'm never going to put up with my manager requesting X, Y or Z," but instead, of course, he's requesting X, Y or Z so then we're pushing the line in the sand. We're giving in 'just time.' Next time we're going to be holding our ground, next time we're going to state our limits, we're trying to claim no but we're just not doing that.
Slowly, our self-esteem and our self-confidence are chipped down. Not just in regards to the job we do, but also in terms of how we view ourselves, how we feel about ourselves and what we foresee in the future for ourselves. For a long period we feel very crappy - just not yet bad enough to do something about it but to moan and grumble. All bursts before one day. It is anything very tiny that normally ends up knocking us off the handle! Lastly, we've had plenty, we've hit a tipping point and we can't believe that the existence we're living today is what there is to give and learn.
That's what happened to me five years ago; I was in a position that I couldn't live in, in a partnership that didn't fit and it was growing and rising before something exploded! BOOM BOOM! It wasn't pretty or easy and within a few hours, my world became unrecognizable. So, that was a transition put onto me- I was fired and made obsolete a couple weeks back. In the end, I was extremely thankful that it was put on me because, to be frank, at the moment, I guess I was too fucking chicken shit to do something proactively about it myself.
When you embrace the unacceptable, acknowledge the inacceptable and exist long enough beyond your dignity and honesty, you either erupt or implode.
You erupt by producing or receiving, as mentioned above, a drastic, world-changing circumstance in your world. By turning your pain and anger inward, you implode in a drastic way that expresses itself as agitation, fear or total and utter boredom. Before it erupted, I will implod for a bit!
Those mega bang examples, the implosions or fires, could happen many times throughout your lifetime! I would be shocked if you had never done something like this before. But the truth is that if we're recovering from the trauma, coping with what's happened, and re-creating ourselves, we will look back and be thankful that we're on the other side of things, being stronger.
For the majority of the day, what? The moment that we're living day by day, where we're stuck in the wind, where we're only moving by with no big interpersonal dramas every day? What about the gap between an average explosion and a full blown one? Those occasions where nothing else is off because there is nothing that ever gives you much pleasure or joy. If you are still reading this, then this is the room that most of you are in right now, I guess.
We still put up with a huge deal of garbage to maintain stuff the way we're comfortable with. We might also think, "I'm never going to put up with my manager requesting X, Y or Z," but instead, of course, he's requesting X, Y or Z so then we're pushing the line in the sand. We're giving in 'just time.' Next time we're going to be holding our ground, next time we're going to state our limits, we're trying to claim no but we're just not doing that.
Slowly, our self-esteem and our self-confidence are chipped down. Not just in regards to the job we do, but also in terms of how we view ourselves, how we feel about ourselves and what we foresee in the future for ourselves. For a long period we feel very crappy - just not yet bad enough to do something about it but to moan and grumble. All bursts before one day. It is anything very tiny that normally ends up knocking us off the handle! Lastly, we've had plenty, we've hit a tipping point and we can't believe that the existence we're living today is what there is to give and learn.
That's what happened to me five years ago; I was in a position that I couldn't live in, in a partnership that didn't fit and it was growing and rising before something exploded! BOOM BOOM! It wasn't pretty or easy and within a few hours, my world became unrecognizable. So, that was a transition put onto me- I was fired and made obsolete a couple weeks back. In the end, I was extremely thankful that it was put on me because, to be frank, at the moment, I guess I was too fucking chicken shit to do something proactively about it myself.
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When you embrace the unacceptable, acknowledge the inacceptable and exist long enough beyond your dignity and honesty, you either erupt or implode.
You erupt by producing or receiving, as mentioned above, a drastic, world-changing circumstance in your world. By turning your pain and anger inward, you implode in a drastic way that expresses itself as agitation, fear or total and utter boredom. Before it erupted, I will implod for a bit!
Those mega bang examples, the implosions or fires, could happen many times throughout your lifetime! I would be shocked if you had never done something like this before. But the truth is that if we're recovering from the trauma, coping with what's happened, and re-creating ourselves, we will look back and be thankful that we're on the other side of things, being stronger.
For the majority of the day, what? The moment that we're living day by day, where we're stuck in the wind, where we're only moving by with no big interpersonal dramas every day? What about the gap between an average explosion and a full blown one? Those occasions where nothing else is off because there is nothing that ever gives you much pleasure or joy. If you are still reading this, then this is the room that most of you are in right now, I guess.
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